Avoiding asking for help is a bigger weakness than asking for it!

I don’t deserve this!

How many times have you pushed away help, kindness or advice because you didn’t feel that you deserved it.

Taught that you should be able to figure out everything yourself. That depending on others is a weakness.

You may give away every spare second of your time to others but when you are offered help your ego screams in refusal.

For many years this was me.  I would politely refuse help or pretend that I would ask for it if I needed it.

You brush it off as if you are being altruistic. However in truth you are setting yourself up for failure and feeding the shame and guilt that got you to your state of fatigue, overwhelm and wheel spinning.

As you grow and expand, you will have times where you have to go it alone.

However there are other times when you need to call in help, ask for favours, pay for support.

There was a turning point when I was completing my graduate degree and I had to go away for two weeks in each of the two years of the program.  It meant I was needing someone to care for my kids as their dad was away as part of his military career.

Asking for help for this reason was foreign.  It was hard.  In fact it was my friends who offered and then insisted.  They put aside their lives to support me to do this.  The act of pure love and friendship was beautiful.  It was however something that challenged me to my core.  To them they were giving back for my friendship.  They wanted to see me succeed.  I was humbled.  It was a turning point for me.

You CANNOT do it alone. Name one high powered person you admire and look for their team.

What’s more, the ego and subconscious tag team that is keeping you alone is not doing that out of some belief that you are imposing on others and that you don’t want to be burden. It is forcing you to stay where you are. Clever technique to keep you from changing.

It isn’t better to struggle alone than to ask for help. Call out your shame and guilt!

Find true compassion for yourself and grace in both asking and receiving help.

Are you ready to ask for help?

Ps – photo is from Nunavut Canada near where part of the James Bond movie “The Spy Who Loved Me”was filmed. Isolated, beautiful and harsh. You can bet he didn’t film that movie alone.