Find and Cherish Your Vulnerability

Find and cherish your vulnerability.

Don’t live in the shadow of those who preyed on it.

One of the core things I work through with my clients is opening up the areas of pain around two of the most shamed areas of their life, money and sex.

They have a tight control over those areas. They have often white knuckled through times in their life to rise to great success. Only to then find themselves laying on the bottom again wondering what went wrong.

They smile tightly and laugh loudly. They are the greatest friends. The outspoken ones. They are the ones that look like they have it all together.

In truth they are scared. They are ashamed. They are tired. They are determined. Gritty. Deeply intelligent. Never quite fit in. Over achieving their asses off.

And in our work we unravel the layers of patterns that have woven together a life that takes them on a roller coaster of wins and losses.

In these patterns they have learned to protect their vulnerability. They have been hurt or shunned or turned down or taken advantage of a few too many times. Hiding who they really were because it didn’t fit in with others.

And this results in them not connecting with people in a deep way. They are not consistently reaching their audience. Their clients aren’t hearing them. Their real genius tucked away so they don’t get ridiculed for it anymore. Keeping quiet in meetings or not sharing ideas because it just hurts too much to be rejected. Not truly opening up to their partners fully sexually.

They have moments of great clarity and brilliance and then they struggle to sustain that.

The reason I can do this so easily and so quickly is because I have been there. I had to learn to adapt to what others needed. I was the black sheep and rebellious loud mouth that really didn’t know how to ask for help.

I was the little girl picked to satisfy a trusted old man’s perversions. I learned to adapt to what others needed just so that I could be loved and not rock the boat.

Ironically my outbursts were to get attention hoping someone would notice the problems.

I could feel people’s energies. Feeling visitors before they came…announcing that we had to clean up because people were coming.

I could walk into a room and somehow know if there was danger looming, fear, happiness or pain.

Quickly learning that eggshells were indeed a floor covering. And you could successfully walk on them if you just turned yourself into what others needed. If you gave too much, if you worked too hard, if you wanted it more than anyone else…you would succeed.

I always reached the top in any area I worked. Often through sheer determination and sitting outside the box throwing in ideas to those sitting in the box. All so that I was liked. I could feel love. But I couldn’t fit in. I ‘cared too much’ and felt too deeply.

Then I learned to not only heal but to embrace my path. To see how these things have actually been pointing to my gift all these years. Leading me to be able to get to the heart of issues in the most vulnerable areas very quickly.

So if you feel like you have been white knuckling things for far too long now and you just want to figure this shit out…reach out.

Know that you can love your vulnerability. You can let people see the real you. Rejection is no longer a fear because it is about them and not you.

There is easy and consistent success available to you also

Aren’t you tired of the roller coaster?