Little white lies…
Do you tell a lot of little white lies?
I mean who really cares anyway. It is just a few little misinformations here and there…it isn’t really hurting anyone.
If you consider that every lie you tell goes into a storage bank and when it is full enough, karma will come serve you your interest payment.
What’s more, these lies are stored energetically. And whether people are actually empaths or not, energy is felt. That energy translates into mistrust.
You might not even be lying about your business transaction, but the lie you told your husband last night is energetically felt and will be a reason why people don’t go through with the sale. Or deals fall apart.
Maybe you don’t tell your friend the full truth about something to avoid making him feel bad. This might feel good in the moment but long term that will eat away at you.
Sure it feels better to just fudge the truth sometimes. But the truly transformative and freeing act is to be ‘impeccable with your word’. Don’t lie. About anything.
Another critical part of this is that when you lie, you inevitably attract liars into your life. This happens in a cyclical way to ensure you stay in the pattern you have long ago bought into.
These same people will make you feel hurt and frustrated when you uncover or even just sense their lies.
“Wherever you go you will find people lying to you, and as your awareness grows, you will notice that you also lie to yourself. Do not expect people to tell you the truth because they also lie to themselves. You have to trust yourself and choose to believe or not to believe what someone says to you.” Don Miguel Ruiz
The change that needs to veg made is within you.
Still don’t think it is that big of a deal?
A study out of Berkeley found that “lying, being selfish, cheating, and engaging in infidelity are associated with a suite of negative health outcomes such as elevated heart rate, increased blood pressure, vasoconstriction, elevated cortisol, and a significant depletion of the brain regions needed for appropriate emotional and physiological regulation” L. ten Brinke, J.J. Lee, D.R. Carney, The Physiology of (Dis)Honesty: Does it Impact Health?, COPSYC (2015)
The study cites a lot of other research concluding the negative physiological and emotional impacts of lies and stated that although the long term effects were not known, the immediate and short term impacts were significant enough to cause a negative impact.
Where are the areas you are most prone to lying?
When do you almost through automatic response or conditioning lie about things?
Where are you experiencing people lying to you?
If you are in business or wanting a deep and significant relationship, eliminating the cycle of little white lies is essential to long term success.
After all sales is based on charisma and the best customers are repeat customers. Don’t risk that for a little white lie.