Not Tonight Honey…I have a headache!
“Not tonight honey…I have a headache.”
How many times have you used this…or something just like it.
What you might not realize this is killing your creativity, affecting your business and shutting down your sexual energy.
If women don’t regularly fuel, tap into or use their sexual energy, it can go dormant.
And when women are stressed or pissed a common reaction is to shut down and go into protection mode. That doesn’t feel sexy. It feeds boredom and makes all the irritants that much more prominent.
Most women also need more lead time than men to get into the mood. So when life is coming at you, the last thing you want to think about is gearing up for sex. Whereas your partner would be ready if you took your socks off. (generalizes here this is not the case for everyone of course).
When I am working with women who are shut down in their business they are often also shut down sexually. Little known secret is that creative energy is the same as your sexual energy.
What’s more when I ask if they like sex, the majority of them say yes. And even admit that when they have it they actually ask themselves why they don’t do it more often.
So why are there so many incidents of ‘not tonight honey…’
When women go into survival, stress or protection mode, they shut this down to lead with their ‘I need to do what it takes to get through this’. That energy is very closed and heavy.
The way to overcome this is to have a daily (at minimum weekly) practice what taps into what turns you on. And this doesn’t just have to be sexually.
One of my clients loved to dance, so she immediately signed up for dance classes. She had wanted to do it for months but the excuse was time and not feeling good. At her first lesson she came back open, refreshed and energized. Not only did her and her partner have great sex that night (because she wanted to – she hadn’t felt like it in awhile) but she also woke up with some fun new ideas for her business. And although it had been going of and status quo, she had used ‘bored’ as one word to describe her business.
Another woman just decided she was going to set up some little moments of romance for herself. The side effect was that she was happier and her partner caught on to some little things that made her happy and started to do them for her unexpectedly.
And there is my client who decided to dig out some of her long tucked away lingerie, run herself a bubble bath and surprise her husband with ‘wine on Wednesday’. She didn’t do this for him. She immediately realized she had completely stripped away the sexy in all parts of her life. And she loved lingerie and feeling sexy throughout the day. Something she had stopped once she started working from home and stayed in her pjs all the time.
I love going to art galleries. It can be anything that turns you on. Go make a list of things that turn you on, then schedule them in!
Life can be hard, business can be stressful, and thinking you need to be all or nothing in your sex life may seem harmless. But it is doing way more harm than you may realize…in the bedroom and in your business.
(This may not apply to everyone. However if you once enjoyed sex…if you once had fun in your business and now you don’t…it’s worth exploring!)
#Mindsexmentor